My Dating Journey After Divorce: From Healing to Happiness

Dating after Divorce

It took me 3.5 years before I finally took that step into the dating scene after divorce. At around the 1.5 year mark, I thought I was ready, but I soon realized I had more healing work to do, especially around forgiveness. When I felt the intuitive nudge to try something new and out of my comfort zone, I decided to enlist the help of my friend’s much younger sister because, honestly, I was clueless about what to do.

With her guidance, we created an authentic profile, and then the swiping began! I definitely felt like a dinosaur throughout the process, but I focused on the goal of making a connection with a kind human. I found myself both intrigued and horrified at times, especially when I saw profiles of guys the same age as my son.

Rest assured, there were a few profiles I was drawn to right away. But the constant barrage of mountain men without shirts on or guys looking for momentary pleasure was overwhelming. Then the real lessons began: waiting for the other profile to swipe you, initiating the conversation without sounding boring, and using flirty and playful words to engage in friendly banter, eventually leading to a coffee date.

Prior to this experience, I heard many horror stories from single women using dating apps. I think it’s courageous to put yourself out there to seek companionship. I did meet a wonderful man, and we are now in a relationship. As awkward as the experience was, I wouldn't change it because it challenged me to step out of my comfort zone.

If you truly want something in life that you haven’t yet achieved, you have to be willing to try different things to attract it. When the timing is in alignment, everything falls into place smoothly. That is the beauty of putting in the work to heal the wounds of your past and creating a fresh, open space for new possibilities.