The 3 Pillars of My Work

Over the years of doing this work, I’ve come to realize that what sustains me is not only the practices and tools I’ve learned, but the foundation I choose to live by. At the heart of my path are three simple but powerful pillars that keep me grounded, in integrity, and aligned with my purpose of supporting others.

1. To Be of Service

The first pillar is Seva—a Sanskrit word meaning selfless service or dedication to others. This is a value woven through my lineage. I grew up watching my family live this truth, whether through charitable work, volunteering, or acts of kindness within the Sikh temple. Service was not just something we did—it was who we were. Carrying this forward, I see it as both an honor and a responsibility. It reminds me to show my children what it means to cultivate kindness through action, not just words.

2. To Do No Harm

The second pillar is a commitment to do no harm. For me, this means being present in my work with the highest intention for the people I support. It’s not about trying to fix, control, or impose my will. Instead, it’s about holding space for another’s journey—walking alongside them as a pillar of support. It also means practicing compassion even when someone’s choices or path look different than mine. We don’t need to vilify what we don’t understand; we can honour our differences and still move with integrity.

3. To Walk in Love

The final pillar is to walk in love. This is about embodying unconditional love—both for myself and for others. To me, love is the quiet remembering of who we really are beneath fear, doubt, and expectations. Love doesn’t mean perfection. It means compassion, forgiveness, and remembering that each of us is a child of God, worthy and equal, regardless of our past. When we embody self-love, we shed layers of resistance and return home to our truest selves.

These three pillars—service, non-harm, and love—are the foundation of the work I do. The practices I’ve learned and the modalities I use are important, but it is these values that keep me steady. They remind me that healing is not just about techniques, but about how we show up for ourselves and for each other, day after day.